Islamic Polygyny( Muslim American)

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem;
Inshallah, this group's purpose is the education and support of Islamic marriage and the practice of polygyny. As such, we would like to give some "ground rules" for participation that will help attain the maximum benefit for all. Suggestions are welcome also, inshallah.
1) Please keep your posts on the subject matter - no advertisements, invites, or discussions of other...r agendas.
2) When in disagreement with a post, please remember your adhaab, and how to agree to disagree.
3) The group is not for seeking marriage, but for education and support of marriage.
4) Disrespect of any kind will not be tolerated. The rule is "three strikes, you're out"....you will be gently reminded of transgressions twice, the third offense kicks you out!
The subject matter of this group can be very beneficial and enjoyable, inshallah, if we all maintain consciousness of the fact that we are on a journey together - toward the Good Pleasure of Allah and Jannah!

Polygyny Not Polygamy



Webster’s New World Dictionary defines polygamy as "the practice of having two or more wives or husbands at the same time." Since Muslim women are not allowed to have two or more husbands, let’s find a better word: polygyny. The same dictionary defines polygyny as "a practice of having two or more wives at the same time."

Polygyny

Polygyny was practiced, often without limitations, in almost all cultures. Various religions approved of it and practiced it before and after Islam. Several of the Prophets, mentioned in the Torah and the Bible, had more than one wife. Today it is being secretly practiced by at least 30,000 middle-class Mormons in the USA. However, it is no secret that polygyny of another sort is also being practiced in America and Europe: the practice of having a mistress or mistresses. The difference is that while the non-Muslim male has no legal obligations or responsibilities towards his second, third or fourth mistresses and their children, a Muslim husband has complete legal obligations and responsibilities towards his second, third, or fourth wife and their children.

"And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice." (An-Nisa’ 4:3)

From this verse it becomes clear that polygyny is not mandatory, but is permitted and is Sunnah. Dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation and this applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment, etc. If a husband is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, then he is commanded to marry only one.